When do you know if you fancy someone? What does love do to your brain chemicals, and is falling in love just nature's way to keep our species alive? We call it love. It feels like love. But the most exhilarating of all human emotions is probably nature’s beautiful way of keeping the human species alive and reproducing. With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we’re choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature’s lovely plan. It’s not what you say... Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone. Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather 55% is through body language 38% is the tone and speed of their voice Only 7% is through what they say

The 3 stages of love Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals. Stage 1: Lust This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women. Stage 2: Attraction This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin. Adrenaline The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry. Dopamine Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! Fisher suggests “couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship” . Serotonin And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts. Does love change the way you think? A landmark experiment in Pisa, Italy showed that early love (the attraction phase) really changes the way you think. Dr Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa advertised for twenty couples who'd been madly in love for less than six months. She wanted to see if the brain mechanisms that cause you to constantly think about your lover, were related to the brain mechanisms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. By analysing blood samples from the lovers, Dr Marazitti discovered that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients. Love needs to be blind Newly smitten lovers often idealise their partner, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their flaws says Ellen Berscheid, a leading researcher on the psychology of love. New couples also exalt the relationship itself. “It's very common to think they have a relationship that's closer and more special than anyone else's”. Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted view. It makes us want to stay together to enter the next stage of love – attachment. Stage 3: Attachment Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin. Oxytocin - The cuddle hormone Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm. It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. It is also responsible for a mum’s breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her young baby. Diane Witt, assistant professor of psychology from New York has showed that if you block the natural release of oxytocin in sheep and rats, they reject their own young. Conversely, injecting oxytocin into female rats who’ve never had sex, caused them to fawn over another female’s young, nuzzling the pups and protecting them as if they were their own. Vasopressin Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex. Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic hormone) works with your kidneys to control thirst. Its potential role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole. Prairie voles indulge in far more sex than is strictly necessary for the purposes of reproduction. They also – like humans - form fairly stable pair-bonds. When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses the effect of vasopressin, the bond with their partner deteriorated immediately as they lost their devotion and failed to protect their partner from new suitors. And finally … how to fall in love Find a complete stranger. Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour. Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes. York psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun, has been studying why people fall in love. He asked his subjects to carry out the above 3 steps and found that many of his couples felt deeply attracted after the 34 minute experiment. Two of his subjects later got married.

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The science of love

When do you know if you fancy someone? What does love do to your brain chemicals, and is falling in love just nature's way to keep our species alive? We call it love. It feels like love. But the most exhilarating of all human emotions is probably nature’s beautiful way of keeping the human species alive and reproducing. With an irresistible cocktail of chemicals, our brain entices us to fall in love. We believe we’re choosing a partner. But we may merely be the happy victims of nature’s lovely plan. It’s not what you say... Psychologists have shown it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone. Research has shown this has little to do with what is said, rather 55% is through body language 38% is the tone and speed of their voice Only 7% is through what they say

The 3 stages of love Helen Fisher of Rutgers University in the States has proposed 3 stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment. Each stage might be driven by different hormones and chemicals. Stage 1: Lust This is the first stage of love and is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women. Stage 2: Attraction This is the amazing time when you are truly love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are involved in this stage; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin. Adrenaline The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry. Dopamine Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! Fisher suggests “couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship” . Serotonin And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts. Does love change the way you think? A landmark experiment in Pisa, Italy showed that early love (the attraction phase) really changes the way you think. Dr Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa advertised for twenty couples who'd been madly in love for less than six months. She wanted to see if the brain mechanisms that cause you to constantly think about your lover, were related to the brain mechanisms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. By analysing blood samples from the lovers, Dr Marazitti discovered that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients. Love needs to be blind Newly smitten lovers often idealise their partner, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their flaws says Ellen Berscheid, a leading researcher on the psychology of love. New couples also exalt the relationship itself. “It's very common to think they have a relationship that's closer and more special than anyone else's”. Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted view. It makes us want to stay together to enter the next stage of love – attachment. Stage 3: Attachment Attachment is the bond that keeps couples together long enough for them to have and raise children. Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin. Oxytocin - The cuddle hormone Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm. It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes. Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. It is also responsible for a mum’s breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her young baby. Diane Witt, assistant professor of psychology from New York has showed that if you block the natural release of oxytocin in sheep and rats, they reject their own young. Conversely, injecting oxytocin into female rats who’ve never had sex, caused them to fawn over another female’s young, nuzzling the pups and protecting them as if they were their own. Vasopressin Vasopressin is another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex. Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic hormone) works with your kidneys to control thirst. Its potential role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole. Prairie voles indulge in far more sex than is strictly necessary for the purposes of reproduction. They also – like humans - form fairly stable pair-bonds. When male prairie voles were given a drug that suppresses the effect of vasopressin, the bond with their partner deteriorated immediately as they lost their devotion and failed to protect their partner from new suitors. And finally … how to fall in love Find a complete stranger. Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour. Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes. York psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun, has been studying why people fall in love. He asked his subjects to carry out the above 3 steps and found that many of his couples felt deeply attracted after the 34 minute experiment. Two of his subjects later got married.

 

Sincerity, honesty and closeness are feelings that are associated with love. Discover what it means to fall in love with tips from the author of a book on dating in this free video on love and relationship dating techniques.

Video Transcript

When you were a child, you may have had a puppy or a kitten. And you were in love. Well what feelings do you have when you're in love? This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Dr. Paul. I remember the puppy that I was in love with. And as I look at it, and as you look at it, you can very very often identify those feelings with the feelings you have today about being in love. How sweet they are, how cute they are, how warm they are, how touching they are. All of that adds up to the very same feeling that you had then. And it's how you respond to them. You feel the warmth. If you touch them you feel the closeness. If you talk to them you feel the sincerity. Those are the feelings that are very very significant of the feelings that we have when we're in love. And it's no different from having that puppy when we were children or having that kitten whatever it may have been as a pet, and having that same or similar reaction to that love object. That person that you are in love with. So those are the feelings that just are simple to identify with. You know, there's no rocket scientist that has to develop a formula for this. It's something that you can feel from the inside because you've been there before. Enjoy it. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.

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Are you in love?

 

Sincerity, honesty and closeness are feelings that are associated with love. Discover what it means to fall in love with tips from the author of a book on dating in this free video on love and relationship dating techniques.

Video Transcript

When you were a child, you may have had a puppy or a kitten. And you were in love. Well what feelings do you have when you're in love? This is Dr. Paul author of Boomer Girls, a Boomer Woman's Guide to Men and Dating and host of Ask Dr. Paul. I remember the puppy that I was in love with. And as I look at it, and as you look at it, you can very very often identify those feelings with the feelings you have today about being in love. How sweet they are, how cute they are, how warm they are, how touching they are. All of that adds up to the very same feeling that you had then. And it's how you respond to them. You feel the warmth. If you touch them you feel the closeness. If you talk to them you feel the sincerity. Those are the feelings that are very very significant of the feelings that we have when we're in love. And it's no different from having that puppy when we were children or having that kitten whatever it may have been as a pet, and having that same or similar reaction to that love object. That person that you are in love with. So those are the feelings that just are simple to identify with. You know, there's no rocket scientist that has to develop a formula for this. It's something that you can feel from the inside because you've been there before. Enjoy it. This is Dr. Paul. May your fantasies of today be your realities of tomorrow.

How to attract a girl....Let's Do it....

Every woman is different; if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to attract a women as there are women, so let's go over some basic rules that will win over any woman worth getting

Have your own life. If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this is especially important. Real girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they are insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interest, hobbies and goals.
There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill, talent or something difficult to do that you're proud of like playing guitar and singing in tune at the same time, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too. Impress her, but do not boast too much about your great achievements and plans.

3

Be her friend. Girls don't just fall for random strangers. (Well, some do, but the relationship never goes very far!) If you're in the same Geometry class as her, learn her name. Every time she walks into class, smile at her. Sometimes this is all it takes for a young woman to notice you. At the same time though, don't do this too often! It will just end up looking like you're obsessed with her. But if you talk to other women too, like friends of yours, then she'll see that you're all there. If she doesn't seem to see you, when she walks by, just say "Hi _______." In a friendly way. This way she'll know you exist. If she's shy, she might just smile back, so don't take this as a sign that she doesn't like you! However, if you want your relationship to move ahead, don't get stuck in the quicksand - that is the 'Friend Zone'. Sometimes a girl won't go out with you because she's afraid if the relationship ends badly, she'll lose your friendship! To start moving things along, be a little flirty! A woman will only be intimate with a man she knows, trusts and cares about; and this can only be achieved with time and friendly chat.

4

Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact and smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. The more you talk to girls, the more relaxed you'll become. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or if you have something stuck to your teeth. She may be just as nervous, and small mistakes will likely go unnoticed or be ignored. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment. Just be careful that you don't get so caught up in the moment that you say or do something you might regret later.

5

Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you had a bad day, still greet her pleasantly with a big smile. Most importantly, listen to everything she says. Whether she talks about herself, her family, hobbies or anything, pay attention. Some things could be useful or important to know later in the relationship. Nod to show that you're listening, and also respond to what she says so she knows that you really are listening. Women are very appreciative of guys who demonstrate sincere interest in what they say.

 

6

Be romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles, chocolate and teddy bears) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique; find and do things that only she would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Girls easily notice if you still remember things they told you a long while ago. Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know—better than anyone else in the world—what makes her unique.

 

7

Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. If she's worried, put your hand lightly on her shoulder to comfort her. These are all polite ways to get a little closer to someone without being creepy. Women are delicate, even if they put up a tough front, so make sure the touching is light; for example, don't slap her on the back. If you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

 

8

Compliment her. If you really like someone, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt) make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other women have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original, perhaps by specifying a particular feature. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills. If you're not sure what's good or bad complimenting, read How to Compliment Girls.

 

9

Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is a classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that will make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). Laughter will come by itself if both of you are relaxed and enjoying each others company.

10

Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you. Make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something you're proud of. Alternatively, you can express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. If you aren't yet ready or comfortable with the idea of sharing your personal lives to that extent, just go out for lunch or do something simple together, maybe with a small group of friends, where you can get to know her better.

11

Look Good. Work out run a mile or two, do some sit ups, get a six pack, etc. Also get a tan, so when you go to the pool and she is there, she will be like, "wow". Most not all women like a guy with a tan and some muscles, but don't overdo it; girls don't like it when you have too much muscles. That just shows that you love your muscles too much. Older people usually look better with normal facial and neck fat content range.

 

12

Give her high value. Women want to feel important and valued; do not pay only two pennies for her when she knows she is worth fifty pennies, figuratively speaking; use only the most difficult contact method that you got that require the greatest effort; do not use a short cheap email note to ask her for her personal information or a date, but ask in person preferably at her home. Not doing this probably leads to no response or rejection of you.

 

13

After there’s a bit of mutual attraction , start throwing out low-level “bait” to see if she bites. A good baiting statement should be light and playful, and usually ambiguous. There’s a certain look a woman will give you if you do that right (and if she’s the right girl to begin with). It’s like you gave her the secret handshake. She’ll look back at you for a couple of seconds, wondering if you “get it” or if you just accidentally stumbled on the right words. When she does this, hold eye contact, and don’t react. Wait for her to say the next thing. “Baiting” is how women flirt too, so be on the lookout for things she might be “joking” about or things that could have a double meaning

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How to attract a girl....Let's Do it....

Every woman is different; if they were all alike, you wouldn't be interested in this one in particular, now would you? There are as many different ways to attract a women as there are women, so let's go over some basic rules that will win over any woman worth getting

Have your own life. If you tend to fall into the "friend zone", this is especially important. Real girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they are insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, focus filling your time with your own friendships, interest, hobbies and goals.
There's no one-size-fits-all solution here. What impresses one girl might make another roll her eyes. Your best bet is to be yourself. Demonstrate a unique skill, talent or something difficult to do that you're proud of like playing guitar and singing in tune at the same time, something that sets you apart from the crowd. Not only will this make her feel good about you, but it can boost your confidence, too. Impress her, but do not boast too much about your great achievements and plans.

3

Be her friend. Girls don't just fall for random strangers. (Well, some do, but the relationship never goes very far!) If you're in the same Geometry class as her, learn her name. Every time she walks into class, smile at her. Sometimes this is all it takes for a young woman to notice you. At the same time though, don't do this too often! It will just end up looking like you're obsessed with her. But if you talk to other women too, like friends of yours, then she'll see that you're all there. If she doesn't seem to see you, when she walks by, just say "Hi _______." In a friendly way. This way she'll know you exist. If she's shy, she might just smile back, so don't take this as a sign that she doesn't like you! However, if you want your relationship to move ahead, don't get stuck in the quicksand - that is the 'Friend Zone'. Sometimes a girl won't go out with you because she's afraid if the relationship ends badly, she'll lose your friendship! To start moving things along, be a little flirty! A woman will only be intimate with a man she knows, trusts and cares about; and this can only be achieved with time and friendly chat.

4

Flirt. When you see or meet a girl you like, make brief eye contact and smile. Strike up a casual conversation. Most importantly, relax. The more you talk to girls, the more relaxed you'll become. Don't think of her as the girl of your dreams; don't worry about what will happen if you make a bad joke, or if you have something stuck to your teeth. She may be just as nervous, and small mistakes will likely go unnoticed or be ignored. Enjoy interacting with this attractive, friendly girl whose path crossed yours. Live in the moment. Just be careful that you don't get so caught up in the moment that you say or do something you might regret later.

5

Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you had a bad day, still greet her pleasantly with a big smile. Most importantly, listen to everything she says. Whether she talks about herself, her family, hobbies or anything, pay attention. Some things could be useful or important to know later in the relationship. Nod to show that you're listening, and also respond to what she says so she knows that you really are listening. Women are very appreciative of guys who demonstrate sincere interest in what they say.

 

6

Be romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles, chocolate and teddy bears) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique; find and do things that only she would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she's shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Girls easily notice if you still remember things they told you a long while ago. Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know—better than anyone else in the world—what makes her unique.

 

7

Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she's stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. If she's worried, put your hand lightly on her shoulder to comfort her. These are all polite ways to get a little closer to someone without being creepy. Women are delicate, even if they put up a tough front, so make sure the touching is light; for example, don't slap her on the back. If you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she'll probably enjoy the affection.

 

8

Compliment her. If you really like someone, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt) make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she's shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other women have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original, perhaps by specifying a particular feature. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills. If you're not sure what's good or bad complimenting, read How to Compliment Girls.

 

9

Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is a classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that will make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it's not illegal, of course). Laughter will come by itself if both of you are relaxed and enjoying each others company.

10

Ask her out. Invite her to go somewhere or do something with you. Make sure it's something that you're both interested in. If you want, show her your world. Bring her somewhere that you feel comfortable and preferably, where you have or do something you're proud of. Alternatively, you can express interest in seeing her world. Is she a musician? Ask if you can see her perform. Is she a mathematician? Ask to read her report or thesis. If you aren't yet ready or comfortable with the idea of sharing your personal lives to that extent, just go out for lunch or do something simple together, maybe with a small group of friends, where you can get to know her better.

11

Look Good. Work out run a mile or two, do some sit ups, get a six pack, etc. Also get a tan, so when you go to the pool and she is there, she will be like, "wow". Most not all women like a guy with a tan and some muscles, but don't overdo it; girls don't like it when you have too much muscles. That just shows that you love your muscles too much. Older people usually look better with normal facial and neck fat content range.

 

12

Give her high value. Women want to feel important and valued; do not pay only two pennies for her when she knows she is worth fifty pennies, figuratively speaking; use only the most difficult contact method that you got that require the greatest effort; do not use a short cheap email note to ask her for her personal information or a date, but ask in person preferably at her home. Not doing this probably leads to no response or rejection of you.

 

13

After there’s a bit of mutual attraction , start throwing out low-level “bait” to see if she bites. A good baiting statement should be light and playful, and usually ambiguous. There’s a certain look a woman will give you if you do that right (and if she’s the right girl to begin with). It’s like you gave her the secret handshake. She’ll look back at you for a couple of seconds, wondering if you “get it” or if you just accidentally stumbled on the right words. When she does this, hold eye contact, and don’t react. Wait for her to say the next thing. “Baiting” is how women flirt too, so be on the lookout for things she might be “joking” about or things that could have a double meaning